About RelShip
Our Mission
At RelShip, we believe that understanding ourselves is the foundation for building healthy relationships. Our mission is to make relationship psychology accessible to everyone through science-backed assessments, personalized insights, and practical resources.
We've created a platform that helps you understand your unique relationship patterns, from attachment styles to love languages, communication preferences, and emotional intelligence. By gaining insight into these patterns, you can make more informed choices, communicate more effectively, and build deeper connections with loved ones.
"Awareness is the first step toward change. Our goal is to help you become aware of your relationship patterns so you can choose which ones to keep and which ones to transform."
Our Approach
Science-Backed
All of our assessments are grounded in established psychological theories and research. We draw from attachment theory, the work of relationship researchers like John Gottman, and other evidence-based approaches.
Personalized
We recognize that every person's relationship journey is unique. Our assessments provide personalized insights based on your specific patterns and preferences, not generic advice.
Practical
We focus on providing actionable insights and strategies that you can apply to your relationships right away. Our goal is to bridge the gap between theory and real-life application.
Understanding Relationship Psychology
Attachment Theory: The Foundation
Attachment theory was developed by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s and expanded by Mary Ainsworth in the 1970s. This theory suggests that the bonds we form with our primary caregivers in early childhood create internal working models that influence our relationships throughout life.
These early experiences form the basis for what psychologists call our "attachment style" — a pattern of expectations, emotions, and behaviors in relationships. While our early attachment experiences are influential, it's important to understand that attachment styles can change and evolve throughout life with awareness and intentional effort.
Research shows that understanding your attachment style can lead to more self-awareness, better relationship choices, and improved communication with partners, friends, and family members.
The Four Attachment Styles
Secure Attachment
People with secure attachment generally feel comfortable with intimacy and are able to depend on others without excessive worry about relationship stability. They likely had consistent and supportive caregiving in childhood.
- Comfortable with closeness and independence
- Trust partners and feel secure in relationships
- Communicate needs and emotions effectively
- Resolve conflicts constructively
Anxious Attachment
People with anxious attachment tend to seek high levels of closeness, approval, and responsiveness from partners. They may worry about their partner's ability to love them back and be there for them. They likely experienced inconsistent caregiving in childhood.
- Fear of abandonment or rejection
- Hypervigilant to signs of partner's disinterest
- Need frequent reassurance in relationships
- May appear "clingy" or dependent at times
Avoidant Attachment
People with avoidant attachment value independence and self-sufficiency, sometimes at the expense of emotional intimacy. They may find it uncomfortable to get too close to others. They likely experienced caregiving that was emotionally distant or rejecting in childhood.
- High value on independence and self-reliance
- Discomfort with emotional closeness
- Difficulty sharing feelings and vulnerability
- May emotionally distance when relationships deepen
Disorganized Attachment
People with disorganized attachment may have conflicting feelings about close relationships, both desiring and fearing closeness. They might struggle with regulating emotions in relationships. They likely experienced confusing, frightening, or traumatic caregiving in childhood.
- Inconsistent relationship behaviors
- Both fear and desire close relationships
- Difficulty trusting others
- Unpredictable responses to intimacy
Beyond Attachment: A Holistic Approach
While attachment theory provides a powerful framework for understanding relationship patterns, we believe in a holistic approach that incorporates multiple dimensions of relationship psychology:
- Love Languages - Understanding how you and your partners prefer to give and receive love
- Communication Styles - Recognizing patterns in how you express yourself and hear others
- Conflict Resolution - Understanding your approach to handling disagreements and challenges
- Emotional Intelligence - Developing awareness of emotions in yourself and others
- Personal Values - Identifying core values that guide your relationship choices
Our quizzes are designed to help you explore these different dimensions of relationship psychology, providing a comprehensive picture of your unique relationship patterns.
Meet Our Experts
RelShip's assessment tools and resources are developed in consultation with relationship experts from various disciplines, including psychology, counseling, and relationship education.
Dr. Sabrina Stanovich
Clinical Psychologist
Specializing in attachment theory and trauma-informed approaches to relationship healing.
Ms. Vani Arora
Relationship Researcher
Focusing on the science of emotional intelligence and communication in relationships.
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